Three Helps for Ministering to Women with Chronic Pain

I’m a wife, mother, and member of our church, and I’m involved in women’s ministry—

I’m also a woman struggling with chronic pain, which affects all of these roles.

At least 100 million Americans have chronic pain. This means that one in three people at your church fights a daily battle with physical issues ranging from mild discomfort to debilitating affliction. Some struggle to exercise and clean their homes; some find it difficult to work jobs; some can’t pick up their children or carry groceries; others are laid up in bed and can hardly function.

The reality? Most of the time, you won’t know about these pains and their emotional and spiritual implications—many people with chronic issues don’t look sick or weak, and we struggle to ask for help. So what can you do, as a leader, to minister to the hurting women in your congregation? How can you support us, both spiritually and physically?

Three Helps for Ministering to Women with Chronic Pain

I certainly don’t have all the answers, but because I have chronic pain, I’m familiar with what we strugglers often desire and need (even if we won’t admit it). Three helps come to mind:

1. Pray for us…

To share. As mentioned, most women won’t talk about their chronic pain, at least not in the sense of seeking support. (Grumbling about it is another thing!) So you can start by praying that we’ll make our struggles and needs known, to you and others, with dependence ultimately on Christ. Pray that we’ll humbly seek out church family and leaders for help.

To endure. Chronic pain can easily steal our joy and deaden our hope when our eyes aren’t fixed on Jesus. We’re tempted to lose heart. Pray for us, that “though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self [will be] renewed day by day” (2 Corinthians 4:16), and that our suffering will produce endurance, character, and hope (Romans 5:3-4).   

To heal. While we don’t know God’s will for our pain, we still ask you to pray for our healing. Because God can do abundantly more than all we ask or think (Ephesians 3:20), we trust He can heal us, if He chooses to; He is more than able. God hears your prayers on our behalf in Christ (2 Corinthians 1:11), so ask Him boldly to remove our fleshly thorns. Believe me, we’re often making the same request!

2. Meet with us…

For counsel. Dealing daily with chronic pain can take a toll on us not only physically, but emotionally and spiritually, as we groan in our earthly tents (Romans 8:22; 2 Corinthians 5:2). We grieve the health that’s been lost; we struggle with questions of faith; and our relationships often look different because of the pain. Ask us searching questions. These can help us see our sin and struggles more clearly and delight in God’s truth more fully as a result. (And if you think we might need further help, discerningly point us to a biblical, gospel-centered counselor.)

For encouragement. Like every other woman in your church, we need encouragement from Scripture! Point us to God’s love that will increasingly cast out our fears (1 John 4:18); help us view our chronic pain through the lens of eternity (Colossians 3:2); and remind us that we’re able to persevere through Christ’s strength (Philippians 4:13). Share your struggles with us as well, and what God is teaching you; your faith will bolster ours, and your hardships will give us a chance you encourage you in return.

For understanding. We hope that our times of meeting together might be useful and encouraging to you as you see our faith being exercised in suffering (Romans 1:12). Since chronic pain affects so many people, we’d love to help you better grasp this ongoing battle we’re fighting so your ministry to women within the church might be strengthened and bear much fruit.

3. Support us…

With practical help. Asking for help can be hard for chronic sufferers because we’re often too tired to think through our needs, and even when we do, it can feel like too much effort to seek people out. So we’d appreciate your proactive care to leverage the body of Christ for practical help (Acts 4:32), like cleaning our homes, delivering groceries, childcare, errand running, and rides to doctor’s appointments. These acts of service greatly bless us!

With pastoral care. As you seek to know us and show us the love of Christ, would you inform our pastoral leadership about this chronic battle we fight? We glean God’s truth from their preaching and would love to be kept in mind as they create sermon application points, especially on the topic of suffering. For those who are laid up in bed because of pain, pastoral visits and corporate prayer mean the world.

Show Us Christ

Ultimately, remember, sister, that the weight of our struggles does not fall entirely upon you. The Lord might be pleased to use you, as you pray and leverage his church; but this task is not solely yours. This is why God gives us the beautiful, diverse body of Christ.

Yet there’s one help you can always employ: By far, the most important work of your ministry is to continually point us to Christ, our suffering Savior, who went through the greatest pain and darkest battle so ours would eventually end (Isaiah 53:4-10). Show us the beauty of Jesus, who rose from the grave and sits at the Father’s right hand in heaven, who strengthens us by His Spirit and reminds us that we are indeed God’s children (Romans 8:16-17). Show us how near He is to the brokenhearted, how He saves the crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18).

He is our hope, both for persevering through today’s pains and for entering eternal glory, when we’ll be restored forever, body and soul (Revelation 21)—and we praise him for using you as His instrument to minister these very great and precious truths to us.

[Post Credit: Revive Our Hearts]

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