When a Christian Leader Fails You

Leaders in the church aren’t exempt from sin. No one is. We don’t expect perfect people to lead our congregations, create our resources, and speak into our culture. But we do expect them to uphold the Bible’s authority and walk in holiness. We do want them to remain faithful to Christ.

So what are we to do when a respected Christian leader fails the church, in any context? How are we to respond?

Rejoice in God’s Unchanging Nature   

God is not man, that he should lie, or a son of man, that he should change his mind. Has he said, and will he not do it? Or has he spoken, and will he not fulfill it? (Numbers 23:19)

God is immutable. He never changes his mind. He makes good on what he says he’ll do, and he upholds every word he has spoken. Think about all the plans God has made and communicated to us, plans he had formed before eternity past, and consider how he’s been faithful to fulfill them. Think about his goodness to keep his promise of salvation to unworthy sinners. Think about the unbreakable new covenant of Jesus’ blood, poured out for the forgiveness of our sins.

As we consider the leader who has changed, we can rejoice in our unchanging, trustworthy, and true God. He will never leave us, fail us, betray us, or change. He is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Hebrews 13:8).     

Recognize It Could Be You

Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall. (Proverbs 16:18)

When a respected leader fails us, it’s easy to think, I would never do that. Shame on them. I’m guilty of such thoughts. But we should be careful because all of us are more prone to sin than we may think.

Have you ever considered what sins you’re capable of committing in your lifetime? What about in the next year or week? What about in the upcoming hour? It may seem far-fetched to compare our potential to sin to those leaders who’ve fallen so drastically—but is it?

“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” (Jeremiah 17:9). God’s Word tells us it’s not drastic to think this way because the human heart is complex and perplexing, deceiving us into pride (believing we’d never do such a thing) or into sin itself (doing the thing we never believed we’d do). Sometimes such pride can actually lead to sin, as Proverbs 16:18 warns.

When a leader fails, we’ll be helped by recognizing our proneness to wander from God’s ways and Word. We should praise God for the good gift of his Holy Spirit, who lives in us, convicts us of sin, and empowers us to walk in holiness and truth; and we should always, always be on guard against the deceitfulness of our flesh, openly confessing sin and temptation to our faithful, just God (1 John 1:8-9) and to other trusted believers.

Respond with Caution and Humility

Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips! (Psalm 141:3)

In the age of social media, blogs, and instant news, it may feel like we have permission to comment on anything and everything, whether we know all the facts or not. It may seem like there’s an open door to air our grievances and speak our minds, and there may be—but that doesn’t mean we should. Wisdom responds with caution and humility; it doesn’t react in haste.  

“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear” (Ephesians 4:29). This verse doesn’t say, “Let no talk come out of your mouths,” but “let no corrupting talk.” There are indeed times and contexts for us to speak into situations with wisdom; we aren’t to sweep destructive beliefs and outcomes under the rug. But we are to exercise caution and humility so our words reflect the truth.

We should also consider what we know to be true––or don’t know––about any given situation involving another person. Many times, we don’t know every detail, nor do we see the context clearly, which is yet another reason to use caution and exercise humility before we respond.

When a leader fails us, it’s tempting to react and speak from hurt, disappointment, and anger. But God calls us to wisdom, to keep watch over our lips, so our response builds up and doesn’t add to the tearing down that’s already in action. Sometimes, this means taking a step back to pray and process the situation before saying anything.

Remember Your Leaders in Prayer

…I urge that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and thanksgivings be made for all people, for kings and all who are in high positions, that we may lead a peaceful and quiet life, godly and dignified in every way. (1 Timothy 2:1-2)

Finally, pray. Pray for your pastor, your elders, and the board members of your church. Pray for church staff and volunteers. Pray for Christians who’ve been entrusted by God with large, public platforms, who influence many people. Pray because sin is real, human hearts are deceitful, and the enemy is looking for more leaders to devour.

God hears the prayers and pleas of those whom he’s set apart for himself (Psalm 4:3). As you consider the leaders who’ve failed you and the church at large, meditate on God’s promise from Deuteronomy 31:6: “Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.”

[Post Credit: Unlocking the Bible]